Ministering Angels

"They neither marry nor are given in marriage; but are appointed angels in heaven, which angels are ministering servants, to minister for those what are worthy of a far more, and an exceeding, and an eternal weight of glory."

Wednesday, December 13, 2006

Insecure

By Sarita

I think it's a given that we all have our little insecurities. From the most beautiful to the homely. Some may be more extreme and crippling than others, but the nature to want what we don't have is all the same. Mostly I like myself. There are some physical things like when I was standing in line for legs, I would have opted for the long sexy legs rather than the long sturdy ones. Granted mine aren't bad, and some have mentioned that they'd prefer mine over their short legs. Then again, I would prefer their thick hair, and had I super thin legs, than I probably would look pretty disproportionate with my curvey body and need to trade that in for more of a waif-ey one.

Last night as I watched a rerun (edited) episode of Sex and the City, I got to thinking. Carrie was writing an article about modelizers, or men that only date models aka unbelievably good looking and wellproportioned women. Usually with no intellect (not that beauty has to equal dumb, but the idea that this is all these women have going for them and the men don't seem to care). I find this to be true quite often. And not at all limited to the unbelievably attractive men, but you're general average men as well. Posing the question that, if mediocre men are only going for the unrealistic stereotype, what hope is there for the average, intelligent, attractive, but real life women?

I realize that not all men are completely shallow in such regards. And that is an additional blessing of the gospel; perspective and priorities. My beef is, there are guys ranging from the very goodlooking to the quirky and cute that have a good grasp on the gospel, are smart, responsible, and yet only seem to be attracted to those that are seem to be at the top of their league physically. Those that appreciate maturity, intellect, and beauty beyond a hard body seem to be, in my experience, the creepy, unbalanced type, who a) scare the begeezes out of me or b) are so extremely caught up in being the perfect peter priesthood that they wouldn't like me anyway, because I am not shocked by all swear words and am the type to be inspired by shows like Sex and the City.

I believe that once in a blue moon do we come across someone well balanced enough that it may actually work, but then the desperation to hang on to that fleeting opportunity sets in and I come off as one of the creepy folk and scare the begeezes out of him.

It's an uphill battle.

The end of the episode was actually refreshing, as the gorgeous man model revealed how vulnerable and alone he feels sometimes, that he really wants what most people want, family and stability. And that he thinks that Carrie's nose (that she hates) is cute. Deep down, we are all the same, with insecurities, faults, and a rockin hard body that is just harder for some of us to find and/or recognize in ourselves.

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at 12/15/2006 5:35 AM Blogger Magson said...

I agree that it does often seem that we are too focused on the physical and in an ideal world it wouldn't matter. But it *does* matter. Sure no one's perfect, and we're all our own worst critic. I recently went out with a lady who said she hates her nose. And if one is looking critically, sure, it was disproportionately large for her face. But it didn't make her unattactive at all, and in my opinion it added something distinctive to her. Without it, she would have been "just another pretty fact." With it, she was unique and beautiful.

It does make you wonder though -- when will we recognize that beauty is more on the inside than the out, and if the out is "hawt" too, well then that's a nice bonus.

 
at 12/18/2006 12:03 PM Blogger Sarita said...

I agree that it does matter. You have to be physically attracted, or it would just be sad.

I just think we, or society, or somebody has set up this ideal that can be dangerous. Part of the reason that pornography is so destructive. If we are so centered on the physical, it leaves little room for anything else.

 

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